Gentle parenting gets misread as 'no boundaries'. It's actually the opposite: clear, firm limits held with warmth instead of fear.
'I won't let you throw blocks' and 'you're allowed to be cross.' The limit stays; the emotion is welcome.
If the blocks get thrown, the blocks go away for now — connected and logical, not a random punishment.
Toddlers don't process 'don't' well. 'Feet on the floor' lands better than 'stop climbing'.
You'll lose it sometimes. Coming back with 'I'm sorry, I was frustrated, I still love you' teaches more than never slipping.
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Yes. Toddlers respond well to clear limits paired with acknowledged feelings and lots of connection. It builds cooperation over time rather than fear-based compliance.